Love languages for Kids- 1st: Words of Affirmation!
Children are the most precious little beings and so much of what we, as parents, teach them and provide them with, helps to shape who they become later in life. Our Children need to know that they are loved, cared for and they need to feel safe and secure in their home and family environment. For the next 5 weeks, we are going to look at the '5 love language for kids' and how each one impacts the growth and development of our tiny humans.
The first love language is Words of Affirmation. When our children hear positive and encouraging words from us, it builds their confidence and makes them feel loved. Telling your child that you love them every day is so important. Hearing the love word makes me feel warm and happy inside so I assure you, our little ones feel the same. Tell them how proud you are of their achievements or what they have made and brought home from school. My son made the most amazing beehive out of toilet rolls and he was the first to complete his little cork bee to go inside it. He was so proud of himself and I kept telling him how amazing it was and how proud I was of him too. Watching his beaming smile made my heart melt. My daughter also brought home a beautiful flamingo made out of toilet rolls and a paper plate with tissue feathers. She too was so proud and didn't want to let it go.
Encouraging little ones and complementing them for their efforts is so important. I like to chat to my children's teachers, when my children are present so I can hear all the wonderful things they have got up to and for them to hear how proud their teacher is of what they are achieving.
As we know, snack time is always an exciting time for children and they can't wait to delve into their snack boxes and chat to their friends. A little note in the lunchbox always adds an element of excitement and a feeling that mom and dad love you and are thinking of you. I can't wait to add that small touch when my little ones are able to read!
We also know that life is not always easy and our children do test us and they do push boundaries. This is life and children will have outbursts and frustrations and yes, they will test our patience. As hard as it is, we have to try and maintain calm and not use hurtful words no matter how angry or upset we are with them. The tone of our voice needs to show that we are boss and that we don't accept this sort of behaviour. I know it is difficult not to shout or get angry, we have all done it, I am sure, but having an inner calm that can show an outward firmness is best. Be careful about what comes out of your mouth when you are angry and remember you are the adult, you need to set the example.
Positive words stay with children forever, use them every day! Children will remember those small acts of love and it will make them feel warm and fuzzy inside! Show your love by using special words of affirmation!